SUPERHEROINE IN TROUBLE
I am a heroine that needs your help! For safety reasons I will not reveal my name nor my alter-ego, until such time as it is needed.
My problem is this.....I'm torn between 2 desires......the desire to do good and help out the city I live in and defend....but I also have a desire to be bound and placed in dire peril!!
Dr X...is this normal? Should I retire......I am so confused!!!!
a conflicted heroine
Dear conflicted heroine,
When I did couples therapy I heard a lot of sexual turn on's. The first question I was always asked was 'is this normal?'. Now honestly I hate the term normal, it gives people a connotation that if they do not go by societies definition of 'normal' then they must have something wrong with them. But for sake of discussion let's discuss certain aspects of your turn on.
Is what you feel 'normal'? Yes it is, at least normal for you and many others. For people generally we are in control with most if not all aspects of our lives, but in most people there is a desire to let go, not be in control for a while, to be surprised. When this happens certain hormones are released giving us a pleasurable feeling. There is usually a stopping point and generally we are able to stop it from going to far. We all have a dominating and submissive side to our personality. What you are experiencing is a typical human behavior. Should you quit? No as long as you are able to stop things before they inflict permanent bodily harm. Keep up the good fight confused.